What effect does your present relationship have on your success story? No relationship leaves you the same way: it builds you up or destroys you, determines your failure or success in life. Therefore, it is very vital that you know how to build quality relationship. This article aims to equip you with basic but adequate knowledge on how to do just that.
Through skillful and godly Wisdom is a house (a life, a home, a family) built, and by understanding it is established [on a sound and good foundation], and by knowledge shall its chambers [of every area] be filled with all precious and pleasant riches. – Proverb 24: 3-4 (AMP)
A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger. A man hath joy by the answer of his mouth: and a word spoken in due season, how good is it! – Proverbs 15:1, 23 (KJV)
It is not conceited (arrogant and inflated with pride); it is not rude (unmannerly) and does not act unbecomingly. Love (God’s love in us) does not insist on its own rights or its own way, for it is not self-seeking; it is not touchy or fretful or resentful; it takes no account of the evil done to it [it pays no attention to a suffered wrong]. – 1 Corinthians 13:5 (AMP)
Every success story starts with a relationship. You need people to be successful in life. The key to your success or failure is your ability to build and maintain quality relationship in all areas of your life. However, a word of caution here: no two persons are the same, everyone is unique. Therefore, it is important that you relate to individuals according to your knowledge of them. Every relationship is to benefit everyone involved.
How to build relationship of great quality
1. Have a relationship with God
First and foremost, build a relationship with God. How you relate with God determines how you will relate with your fellow human beings. A close walk with God builds you to be like Him: to think, talk and act like Him. A relationship with God is the foundation for any success story. Remember, God is the God of success. This outstanding world we are in is a proof of that.
2. Have an understanding Attitude
There is nobody you cannot relate with. All you need is an understanding attitude. It will help you to avoid any misunderstanding. A good picture of the person you are relating with will determine what you say, when and how you say a thing. Also, it will determine how you act before the person.
3. Be rational
Emotion, though important to relationships, needs to be balanced with reason. Too much emotion can distort your judgement and consequently your success story. When you balance emotion with reason, you tend to make fewer mistakes in life.
4. Acquire good communication skills
Communication is the bed-rock of any relationship. Where there is no effective communication, there will be no quality relationship. Develop good communication skills, most especially listening skills. In order to build relationship that will enhance success, you need to learn how to pass across information, feelings, etc effectively to another person. Let the person get the message as you do.
5. Be reliable
A strong relationship is characterized by reliability on the part of everyone involved. Be wholly trustworthy, predictable, honest, clear and reliable, but not naive.
6. Employ the power of influence
The power of influence is more effective and impactful than that of dictatorship. Don’t be coercive or forceful in your approach. Rather, be persuasive and likewise open to persuasion.
7. Learn the act of applying brakes
If you believe in that relationship you will not be in haste. Building quality relationship demands that you make some sacrifices, including sacrificing time, to really appreciate the person you are relating with. Applying the brakes will uncover certain traits in the person that will enhance success for you; this you will miss if you are in a hurry. Also, you will have a better opinion of that person.
8. Practice not judging others
Being judgmental is detrimental to any success story. No one enjoys being judged by others. You are human with both faults and good qualities, so also your friend, spouse, colleague, etc. By avoiding being judgmental in your daily life, you will attract comments, suggestions and ideas that will boost your success in life.
9. Practice true love
Quality relationships are built on the foundation of true love. Love that prefers another to oneself builds relationships that bring out the best in everyone involved. When you walk in true love towards your friend or spouse, etc, you provoke him or her into doing all he or she can do to increase your success story.
10. Learn to say NO when due
To build relationship of great quality, you need to know when to say NO and stick to it. Understand your place in that relationship. Don’t allow anybody to manipulate you: it will not enhance success for you. Setting limits in your relationships means learning to love and trust yourself. Someone who recognizes that you respect yourself will most likely respect you too.
Many people understand the power of relationship but lack the knowledge of how to use it to enhance their success story. Following the above steps will certainly set you on the right path. Really, it is possible to build quality relationship that will make you a success in life, but the responsibility is yours. Take right steps today and your story will be the next to be shared!
Ngozi Nwoke is a teacher and a counselor. She has a passion to teach people how to enjoy peace, God’s love and christian living for more fulfilling life. Want more fulfilling life? Subscribe for free email updates today.